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Saturday, October 31, 2009

BAILING ON OR KILLING FOR YOUR WOMAN


What is the SOP (standard operating procedure) for standing up for your woman? Do all girls really like it in all cases even when it's irrational? Is it mostly done to feed ones need to project alpha male dominance A.K.A ego or out of a genuine desire to protect a loved one's dignity? Is a guy perceived to be more attractive if he is the extreme territorial type that goes like "if you even as much as look at my babe the wrong way, I don't care if you have a gun I'll punch you in the face"?

Men have done all sorts for women. From Menelaus of Sparta that started a full blown war in an attempt to snatch back his stolen babe to Chukwuemeka of Nnewi that punched the dude that slapped his babe at a party. An act which caused a chain-reaction of events that ended with 7 bodies 6 feet deep. Well, the Helen of troy gist might be a myth but the second one is a true story o! There is also the story of Adewale that took off and disappeared the second armed evil men showed up at the joint he was hanging out with his chic. Leaving the babe to fend off Kalashnikovs with her Ferragamo high heels.

I am asking this question because it seems like some girls expect too much. Not to mention, some are active trouble makers looking for who would be ever ready to shout "THIS!! IS!! SPARTA!!" on their behalf. I had this one experience where a babe that got robbed said to me in all frankness, "I just thank God you were not there because they had guns and I know you would have wanted to protect me and things would have gone badly."

Did you say they had guns? Protect with what? My bulletproof ribcage? Nawaoo.

Anyways, I'll like to know how una see these things. Feel free to suggest permissible levels of reaction in different scenarios.

Many argue it's stupid to overreact when there is a clear "existential threat." In that case they say the sensible thing to do is to put your beta abi gamma male dominance BS in your pocket.






PS: "Courage is not limited to the battlefield or the Indianapolis 500 or bravely catching a thief in your house. The real tests of courage are much quieter. They are the inner tests, like remaining faithful when nobody's looking, like enduring pain when the room is empty, like standing alone when you're misunderstood."
--Charles Swindoll

24 comments:

Azazel said...

Lmao my man enoch i swear mehn u were just readin my mind.. I was actually thinkin about this on Wednesday because something happened...
U know how when ur walkin with a fine babe, guys see her and start to make noise like make catcalls, lmao for some reason this babe expected me to scold the guys for doing that.. Am like, why should I do that? Even if u were my gf, i would still not give them any dirty look. It's a free country, they can admire God's handy work fi they so choose to my whistling or makin noise.

LMAOOOO @ bulletproof ribcage.. Don't mind the yeye girl

Lady X said...

You sound like you'll run for the hills if someone tries to mess with your babe.

Enoch said...

@Azazel
Meehhn. I feel you o. You dey talk of whistling. After I had given one guy about half a dozen slaps for slapping my cousin's friend, the babe wasn't satisfied o. Say make I beat am up. lol

@Lady X
I have a knack for talking my way out of crazy situations and I consider myself very protective within the limits of my power.

I project violence when it is rational, justified and necessary to fix a situation.

However, I can't imagine a scenario where I would take a bullet for a babe I'm not married to. I'm selfish about my life like that.

Azazel said...

Forreal @ projectin violence when it's rational, justified and necessary..
Am just like that, i've seen a whole lot of ppl get violent just because their pride or dignity was challenged.. I keep on remindin myself that nobody ever choked to death from swalloing their pride.

Lady X said...

So that's a Yes on running for the hills. You too Azazel! And you wonder why when you go home you don't get any food to eat from the woman. LMAO

Azazel said...

Lmao @ Lady X..
Hahah no be only hills i go run to, and that's why i've been eatin takeout of late...

Nice Anon said...

"THIS!! IS!! SPARTA!!"

Buahahaha haaaaaaaaa LWKMDied!

lol abeg a man has to stand up for his woman always but not when she goes out there to look for trouble and expect to be protected.

I no go take bullet for another person o!

Bubbles said...

I don't know.
I don't expect too much from my guy.
If guys like whistle when I walk past with him, sometimes he says something, sometimes he doesn't and me I don't really care.

My boyfriend has told me that, if anything crazy happens he will be there to protect me or whatever.

Point is, I don't need to ask him to do things or I don't HAVE to.
you know?

some girls are crazy tho.
protect who?
jokes
lol

Azazel said...

Lol like forreal @ Bubbles, some girls will knowinly go look for trouble and run their mouth to a group of guys and expect another man to protect them..
They will soon come to realise that OYO is real.. ON YOUR OWN.

Myne Whitman said...

So Enoch, what if it is your wife? To what extent will you go?

Neo said...

I love 300 and would want Leonidas to stand up for me anyday.

On a serious note i would like my man to stand up for me but if and only when necessary, not just in a totally random attempt to flex his biceps. Plus i'd like to keep the violence to a minimum, suppose my man decided to stand up for me and ends up getting floored? Ah! our respective egos wldnt be able to take it.

PS; That quote makes serious sense.

Sugarking said...

Chai this post is sooo real mehn!! My Agric teacher back in secondary school always had this saying "Boys fight because of girls" and you could just hear all the girls hissing in disgust, but he was being real!!!

Nine times out of ten a guy would fight back if he was disrespected in front of a female. But if it were just guys, u find people just walking away. simple!

Azazel said...

@ SugarKing
Lol ur teacher was right on the money mehn..
Even in High School in naija, guys use to fight so as to show girls who was stronger.. Pretty ridiculous.

Tay-mee said...

LMAO "This is Sparta"..haha. But yea some girls do expect too much sometimes. Like me I cant lie if I'm in a relationship with someone I know I'm not gonna get married to, I cant jump in front of bullet for anyone oh..its not that serious, I also have my life to live. But I guess it would be different if one were married though..dunno

Reine D'Afrique said...

Just for a say so...ANY MAN WHO SHOUTS "THIS IS SPARTA" IS AN IDIOT!

that being said. A man does not have to return the punches to be a "man" or be strong. Nor does he have to roll with the punches either.

There is ALOT of strength in walking a way, in being a peacemaker.
there is a strength in being sweet, and being a nice guy who will hold their woman when they are hurt.
The strength is being there for your woman, without rolling your sleeves to measure out your biceps or pulling Ur shirt up to count the 8-10 pack.

Enoch said...

@Lady X
Running to the hills is sometimes the wisest move o.

@Nicey
I agree. But it has to be done smartly with emotions in check.

@Bubbles
You're at the other end of the spectrum. Some chics don't waste time to get violent even when it's unnecessary because boyfi is just around the corner.

@Myne
I have been in a situation like that before. When someone is messing with a loved one. Emotions flood your head and all bets are off. There is no telling how far I'll go.

@Neo
All of una wey dey run to Leonidas forgetting all them strong naija characters like Okonkwo from "things fall apart", You guys are sell outs o.

On the real though, thank God for chics like you that are reasonable about the issue.

@Sugarking
Oboy you just drop truth like hammer to nail.

@Tay
You are feeling my rhythm.

@Reine
I know you know I didn't mean screaming "THIS!! IS!! SPARTA!!" literally.

I get all the "being sweet" talk. But are you seriously suggesting that if some stranger donates about half a dozen undeserved slaps to your face in the presence of your boyfi, he should just "be a nice guy" and "hold you cause you're hurt"?

@Azazel
You have seen the different opinions. Interesting.

Azazel said...

@ Reine..
Must u always enage in "Male Bashing"... Have u no shame lol

Reine D'Afrique said...

@enoch,
Violence does not always beget violence.
I mean go ahead and beat them up if it makes you feel better.

@Azazel
Male Bashing? that was not even close to being that. so stop feeling so insecure and man up

Enoch said...

@Reine
Nice to know you think that way. At least on blogs.

My reaction varies on a case by case basis.

Original Mgbeke said...

It's nice to have a man stand up for me but abeg use sense when you dey do am. There was a scenario where a man and a woman were walking down the street and the woman got bumped by some random dude. So her date went off on the dude like 'wtf dude, are you crazy?' and sure enough, street dude pulled out a gun...to which her date started whimpering and apologizing. I was like err...in the first place he should not even have gone off on the dude, it was quite unneccesary because now wey he don whimper and apologize, he entered up looking like a real bish. Like honey, if you wan go gra gra you better be able to back it up, so long story short..do it when it's neccesary and you don peep the scenario. We ladies understand, we no want make una chop bullet on top of a Starbucks date.

Azazel said...

Lol lmao Mgbeks @ untop of starbucks date..
Seriously though, if that guy had gotten shot because of that.. That wud have been serious fuckup.

Reine D'Afrique said...

@Enoch...
Haha, then you should see me in person, I am much more scary lol
I broke up with a guy because his idea of protecting me was to rough up every guy that annoyed me, or anyone who wouldn't make his life easy.

By the way, walking away does not mean that you are bailing on "your woman". There are better and much more safer ways to being there for her, without you ending up with bruises and such. I mean, she will have to clean those wounds and take care of them after all is said and done. lol so that ends up being a burden on her.

ManCee said...

LWKMDD

NEVER, EVER argue with the man with a gun( unless you r superman sha).

I'll stand up for my girl o, esp if na to speak oyibo and flex muscle
if the threat is bigger/stronger than me, 1st priority is her safety (aka I'll ask her to run while I sort d shit) thats if I cant run away same time with her :D

if na something/someone I can handle...then I will.

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