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Sunday, August 22, 2010

MARRIAGE


I’ve been wanting to blog about this topic for a while, but today seems to be the most appropriate day to do so. If you’ve noticed, I blog here quite often mainly because I’m very comfortable interacting with a lot of you, I view most of you as respectful intellectuals, regardless of your beliefs, but lately I’ve been busy and that explains why I’ve been MIA (but don't worry, I'll make up for it with this long ass blogpost). Even with my busy schedule, I always take priority in isolating myself to think, and the idea of marriage is a topic I discuss with myself more frequently these days. This summer seemed to be marriage season, a lot of people I know (or at least recognize) are getting married; at my work place some of my close customers are seeking my advice on their marriage; even as I type right now I’m currently listening to, or as they say in twitter land, #np “Marriage of Figaro” by Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart. So I think it is fair to conclude that marriage is in the air, both figurative and literally. But before I jump into the subject of marriage, I’ll like to re-introduce myself so when I do start discussing this topic, you’ll know where I’m coming from. I am a very typical INTP (Myers-Briggs Personality Test), logical and analytical in my approach. I believe there is always a logical and natural explanation to even the strangest occurrences; that physics is the backbone in every magic trick, that there’s psychology in every psychic’s bullshit, and natural formulas and mathematical equations to what people know as love. I believe even emotions are capable of logic explanations, as logical as 2+2=4. It takes me a while to observe, gather up evidence, experiment with what I’ve got, calculate with the results, and then conclude my theory. But once I’m done concluding my theory, when I’m in my comfort zone I tend to be outspoken about it even if it’s contrary to many societal theories. Unfortunately, this is one of them: Marriage. After the re-introduction of my character and judging by the subject, I would suggest this would be a good time for the closed-minded and the married folks to leave, (because if your marriage hits the rocks after reading this post, I am not responsible). Ok enough of the bullshit, let’s get down to business:

A wise man once said, “The wedding ring is the world’s smallest handcuff.” Although it’s looking at the cup as half-empty, but saying “I do” in a conventional monogamous marriage is like pleading guilty for a life sentence, because that’s exactly what marriage is; a life sentence. You’re metaphorically shackled to your spouse in a “till death do us apart” contract, so you better love your spouse to death because when you decide to marry him/her, that’s exactly what you’re gonna have to do. And honestly, the only thing worse than a “till death do us apart” contract is signing your soul to the devil. The idea of a monogamous marriage is so unnatural and the results prove it. In countries where there is freedom to divorce, divorce rates seem to be pretty high. Here in the US, it’s up to about 50%, which according to the US standard of education is an “F” grade. So therefore, if marriage was a student in the US, marriage would be a serious olodo, or as the yanks say, “dumbass.” Now the question arises; why is marriage such a failure? Is it the culture? Or is it the idea of it? I’d pick both, but I’m more convinced it’s more of the latter. If you look at the main reasons why most marriages split up, the top two are either sexually or financially related.

If you look at the mechanics of the male genitalia, it’s designed for multiple sexual partners. Hundreds of millions of sperm cells gets produced daily, and sperm cells only have a lifetime of 3-5 days. Yet out of these innumerable short-lived cells, only one is allowed to grow in a female’s egg for a period of nine months. This makes the period of time a monogamous couple has productive sex shrink (and that’s not to include the female’s periodic time). All these factors make the other millions of sperm cells that aren’t fertilized to be a thing of waste. Now I am pretty sure most men aren’t raised to waste things, so they “cheat.” Afterall, there are millions of sperm cells in him that are just waiting to get a taste of the outside world, or at least see the walls of a vagina. But yet “cheating” is a taboo in relationships, especially monogamous marriages. And it makes no sense why. If you look at other social animals like lions, wolves, meerkats, even our close cousins, chimps, they build a structure based on polygamy. The strongest and most accomplished of the males of these social creatures tend to get a lot of female companions. If you look at a lion’s den, it’s mostly composed of a few dominant males and plenty lionesses. The dominant male has a polygamous relationship with his females, and I bet you that’s why they have a lower divorce rate than we humans. But rather than learning from other social animals, we tend to view ourselves higher and them as primitives. Too bad the primitives are doing better at marriage than the holier-than-thou humans, ntoo :-p. Instead we follow a code that doesn’t even make sense; only having sex with one partner.

Now that I've given examples of social animals that don't follow such rules, lemme give you the opposite. For instance, there are some worms that when they mate, their genitals adjoin for life. That's a classic case of two becoming one, not marriage. The reason why we can never adapt such methods is because the worms are hermaphrodites and we are social mammals. Another instance is the story of a black widow, the reason these spiders are called so, is because when the males wants it, he puts his life on the line by leaving a part of himself in her after mating. Therefore self-destructing because he wants some spider booty, now that's a classic case of "till death do us 'part," not marriage apparently.

It's about time we humans recognize our nature instead of following an unrealistic code based of "happily ever after" fairy tales. The other day, I was at work, and the TV was on. My boss was watching a soap opera, and the scene I accidentally stumbled across was one where a married man was having sex with some chic, and his wife came in at the right/wrong moment (depends on who's perspective you see it from). She slaps the shit out of the chic and throws her out of the house, then once the chic is out of the scene, the wife starts crying as she looks at her helpless husband still in shock and in the bed. Then she says, "Don't you love me?" The rest was some of crying, and mushy-gushy shit. But her question had me thinking, just like Tina Turner said, "What's love got to do with it?" Seriously though, how do you connect your husband or wife having sex with someone else (unless the person is your enemy) as he/she not loving you? It seems as if marriage is really all about sex. If he (the husband) was hungry, the wife wasn't around, and the neighbor or housegirl cooked for him, that's fine; but if he was horny, and the neighbor or housegirl gave it up, then that's unacceptable. If that's the case, then asking "don't you love me?" would be the wrong question, it should be "aren't you loyal to this pussy?" I love egusi, but when I eat ogbono soup, I don't feel like I cheated or anything, so why is the marriage in love different? Maybe because marriage is an institution not based on love, but on loyalty. The same loyalty cults demand: Till you die.


Anyways, I obviously have a lot to say about this topic, but I'm afraid if I go on, you won't be reading a blog but rather a book. So I'm definitely going to have a series on this, but for right now I just wanted to share the natural/sexual faults in marriage. Next time I'll touch on the financial/social aspects, until then be safe, and let me know what you think. Once again, I'll like to remind you that I'm not responsible for any downturns in your marriages after reading this post, I'm just stating my opinion. Messiah has spoken, now it's your turn. Peace

29 comments:

Azazel said...

Wow bro hahahahaah loooooooooooooooooool @ Are u loyal to this pussy..
Messiah u and I are so alike in many different ways bro..
This is a 5 star blogpost...
Truly amazing and funny..

And I agree bro, marriage is based more on loyalty than it is based on love

Beautiful said...

@Messiah - since if the man is hungry and the neighbour or househelp cooks him food is not a bad thing, i hope u wouldn't mind if your wife is horny and the house boy or gate man helps her out, afterall no one said only one person should enter the four walls of a room, her vagina wasn't specifically designed to accomodate only your male member.


@Azazel - with love comes alot of things including loyalty.

Naijalines said...

I don't agree with marriage being based on loyalty more than love, but I guess that depends on the two people involved.

LMAO @ "Are you loyal to this pussy."

Certainly a five star post. I enjoyed reading, love the logic.

Lol at Beautiful. Oya Messiah, over to you!

El-Divine said...

hahahaha WOW. I say Yes! to the book, write on bro. this makes excellent sense.
great one

Azazel said...

Lol beautiful I would say that the foundation of marriage is built more on loyalty than on love

Beautiful said...

@Azazel - nope! with love comes many things including loyalty. don't get it twisted.
nice post btw

Realist said...

Nice post, well written, but i completely disagree. I should probably change my name from Realist to "sucker for love" for this post...lol But i believe (need to) in marriage even in face of me growing up around failed ones. I want that fairy tale mushy punk shit...lol My mom and Aunts infected me with that bug.
Reason why infidelity is equated with not loving your spouse is because, what does everyone do on their wedding night? Eat egusi/ogbonno? Exactly... Sex not eating is the union between 2 people, they literally become one, connected at the crotch. So if you go ahead and become "one" with the neighbor that could easily mean you dont love your spouse enough.

Ebonygem said...

Good blog and thinking outside the box but I would have to disagree on certain areas you discussed. You cannot put animals/mammals on the same level as humans or man. We are and never suppose to be on the same level as animals/mammals; however, good comparison. Marriage is corrupted by society especially Western culture which is carrying on to different cultures today. Sadly, divorce rates prove it but I would have to say marriage takes work, communication, love, trust and much more.

@ Are you loyal to this pussy? Is a nonsense question. Why would a female ask that when she sees another woman in his bed. Obviously, it is not the P****, it is something deeper than that.

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EDJ said...

@"The strongest and most accomplished of the males of these social creatures tend to get a lot of female companions."
Following your logic you must then realize that there will STILL be millions of sperm going to waste since any male who is not "strong and accomplished" will never ever ever get laid. At least with the "excuse" of love, every male has a chance. If you really want to use this logic then I hope you are the strongest most accomplished male in your neighborhood, otherwise good luck.

@ "If you look at a lion’s den, it’s mostly composed of a few dominant males and plenty lionesses. The dominant male has a polygamous relationship with his females, and I bet you that’s why they have a lower divorce rate than we humans."
No. They have a lower "divorce" rate because the lioness would not survive alone outside of the pride. Luckily us women, with our need for non-a**hole husbands, are allowed to leave "the pride" and can make it by ourselves. I am sure you understand why divorce is important in the event that an unfortunate woman marries the wrong man and needs a way out.

@ "Too bad the primitives are doing better at marriage than the holier-than-thou humans,"
But didn't you say the "primitives" don't have "marriage"? If they have no marriage how can they be doing better at it?

@ "Instead we follow a code that doesn’t even make sense; only having sex with one partner."
First it only makes sense to self-serving people who share a genetic resemblance to rabbits and do not understand that sex is not everything. So your suggestion is to follow the "primal" code. I think you need to watch more Discovery Channel and National Geographic to get a better understanding of these animals.

@ "It's about time we humans recognize our nature instead of following an unrealistic code based of "happily ever after" fairy tales."
Unrealistic for who? You? These animals that you talk about so much you think they don't have "requirements" for their "code". The chimp that mates with all those females had to fight another chimp to get that "right". Young males are killed so that older males can retain the "mating rights". There are so many reasons why the "natural" way is not okay.

@ "Seriously though, how do you connect your husband or wife having sex with someone else (unless the person is your enemy) as he/she not loving you?"
Because if you "loved" your partner you would exercise self-control and not sleep with everything that gains your attention. After all, we are "higher" animals--despite what you think.

@ "It seems as if marriage is really all about sex. If he (the husband) was hungry, the wife wasn't around, and the neighbor or housegirl cooked for him, that's fine; but if he was horny, and the neighbor or housegirl gave it up, then that's unacceptable."
Depends on the wife. Personally, I would like to know why my husband is heading to another female (not related to him) for food when he can either make something or buy something. Is he a child that needs feeding and can't help himself? A bumbling idiot who can't microwave something?

I am sorry. I can't agree even remotely with your post because there are too many holes in your logic. Whats good for lions and chimps cannot work for human beings.


@ "I love egusi, but when I eat ogbono soup, I don't feel like I cheated or anything,"

That is just great. Compare your choice of soup to being loyal to another human being that thinks and feels. Great job.


"Maybe because marriage is an institution not based on love, but on loyalty."

Ahem...love and loyalty are intertwined. You love someone, you stay loyal to them.

Vanity said...

""I love egusi, but when I eat ogbono soup, I don't feel like I cheated or anything,"

That is just great. Compare your choice of soup to being loyal to another human being that thinks and feels. Great job. "

Apart form the logic behind this being questionable, this is a funny post

Realist said...

Chei!!! Messiah see how you come vex EDJ... she wrote her grad school thesis statement here...lol But yeah I agree with everything EDJ said, even though i have not yet finished reading it...lol

Azazel said...

Lmao omo see school thesis??
Breakdown of argument on a serious levels..
EDJ u try no be small lol

Messiah why u dey vex EDJ like this? U know how many young women this days aspiring to marriage. U are killing a very wonderful dream..

The Messiah said...

@Beautiful, what is good for the goose is good for the gander. But unfortunately, we live in a man's world and I will explain why for women that is unwise in Marriage part 2.

@Ebonygbem, it's strange to say we shouldn't be compared to other social animals, given the fact that we are one too. What makes us different is our brain power. That's like saying you shouldn't compare a cat's behaviour to that of a cheetah simply because the cheater is faster. C'mon now.

@EDJ
"Following your logic you must then realize that there will STILL be millions of sperm going to waste since any male who is not "strong and accomplished" will never ever ever get laid. At least with the "excuse" of love, every male has a chance. If you really want to use this logic then I hope you are the strongest most accomplished male in your neighborhood, otherwise good luck."

--Well, for the human species, strength and accomplishment isn't necessarily what's gonna get you laid. Good looks, humor, and sluts will. So there is no need for an "excuse" for love, thank you very much.

"No. They have a lower "divorce" rate because the lioness would not survive alone outside of the pride. Luckily us women, with our need for non-a**hole husbands, are allowed to leave "the pride" and can make it by ourselves. I am sure you understand why divorce is important in the event that an unfortunate woman marries the wrong man and needs a way out."

--By trying to unprove my point, you just helped me prove it even more. If you can make it on your own, then marriage seems quite irrelevant. Why enslave thyself when you have the luxury of freedom?

"But didn't you say the "primitives" don't have "marriage"? If they have no marriage how can they be doing better at it?"

--Marriage is the union between man and woman to create a family innit? Let's say the primitives did have marriage, do you think ideologies like "staying faithful" would be added in their agenda? Unlike us, these primitives know their nature, and don't bullshit themselves into a code of ethics that is as unrealistic as a monogamous marriage.

The Messiah said...

"First it only makes sense to self-serving people who share a genetic resemblance to rabbits and do not understand that sex is not everything. So your suggestion is to follow the "primal" code. I think you need to watch more Discovery Channel and National Geographic to get a better understanding of these animals."

--"Sex is not everything?" Really?
And we are talking marriage here? Ok, in this case, you have absolutely contradicted yourself. Sex IS everything when it comes to marriage, it's the reason you marry a gender you are attracted to (can you marry a woman if you are a heterosexual? if not, then you have to agree that sex is the foundation of marriage, and without it, marriage seems pretty cult-ish). Besides, if sex wasn't everything when it came to marriage, then why is that the topic reason marriages fail is sex-related? And also why is it that you have a problem with my polygamous ideology (keeping in mind, sex is 90% of my point here). It seems you need to watch and read more on animal behaviour, especially social animals like ourselves. Because most, if not all practice polygamy. And to prove me wrong, why don't you prove a social creature, in a social environment (not isolated), that sticks solely to monogamy (without including humans please).

"Unrealistic for who? You? These animals that you talk about so much you think they don't have "requirements" for their "code". The chimp that mates with all those females had to fight another chimp to get that "right". Young males are killed so that older males can retain the "mating rights". There are so many reasons why the "natural" way is not okay.

--You are a horrible observer aren't you? So you don't see that chimp behavior in men too? Haha, honestly, observe first, think second, and speak last. A word is enough.

"Because if you "loved" your partner you would exercise self-control and not sleep with everything that gains your attention. After all, we are "higher" animals--despite what you think."

--Also if your partner "loved" you, then he/she would be less selfish/insecure about you. Seems more like you ideology about love is based on possession rather than companion. And your quote on humans being higher animals cracks me up. Trust me, I can write an article as to why the opposite is true, but Mark Twain already did that, even better than I would have by a trillion. So here's your homework assignment; go read Mark Twain's "Lowest Animal" and then afterward, explain to me why you still think we are "higher" animals.

The Messiah said...

"Depends on the wife. Personally, I would like to know why my husband is heading to another female (not related to him) for food when he can either make something or buy something. Is he a child that needs feeding and can't help himself? A bumbling idiot who can't microwave something?"

--No offence, but I'd fucking hate to be your husband. What if there is no food in the house, you're not home, husband had rough day at work and is too tired to cook, and the next door neighbor is a warm woman who just has a passion for cooking and wouldn't mind feeding hungry stomachs. Confronting your husband under those circumstances kinda makes you a controlling and insecure bitch (sorry for the harsh language but it does). And then calling him an idiot too? What a lovely wife you make. So let's flip the table, let's say your car broke down and the neighbor is a good mechanic and also a male, do you expect a confrontation for that too?

"That is just great. Compare your choice of soup to being loyal to another human being that thinks and feels. Great job."

--Have you no clue what an allegory is? It is an example to illustrate a broader fucking picture, if what you love enslaves you, then love is replaced with inescapable loyalty. Imagine if your bff tells you not to hang out with any of your other friends because he/she has gained the title of your bff. And when you do so, your bff says you're "cheating." Wouldn't you be a lot happier to know that your man has the right to fuck any bitch in the world, but yet he only wants you, rather than forcing him to only want you and the reverse happens? Men and women who believe in the "cheating" phenomenon, are nothing but insecure fucks who base love on sex. So like I said earlier, observe first, think second, and speak last. Thank you, and if this post vexed you, wait till part 2.

Beautiful said...

@EDJ - #gbam #cosign....high five!!!

@messaiah - waiting for your explanation before i reply you.

EDJ said...

Messiah, the problem with Mark Twain's essay is that it was written at least 100 years ago and sounds more like a personal rant than "scientific" observation. I would rather use the humans that are around me to make my "judgment" and I still say we are "higher" animals.

I understand what an allegory is. Am I wrong in saying that you are comparing desire for a person to desire for soup?

@"Well, for the human species, strength and accomplishment isn't necessarily what's gonna get you laid. Good looks, humor, and sluts will."
There are women who will ignore good looks, lack of money, poor physical stature, all in the name of "love". If we were not HIGHER animals then "Good looks, humor, and sluts" notwithstanding ANY man who is not stunningly handsome, ridiculously wealthy, amazingly strong, etc would not get laid. If you are not that male then you are SOL. You may say that is how it works now. But, I beg to differ.

@"If you can make it on your own, then marriage seems quite irrelevant."
Good point, and this is why I do not begrudge anyone their decision to marry or not. It is an agreement between two parties not slavery. Agreements can be broken and that is when you get divorce.

@ "Sex IS everything when it comes to marriage,"
No it isn't. If it were just sex the divorce rate would be much higher than 50%.

@ "Besides, if sex wasn't everything when it came to marriage, then why is that the topic reason marriages fail is sex-related?"
Where did you get this information from? People file for divorce for many reasons. Cheating or "sex-related" issues are not the number one reason.

EDJ said...

@ "Men and women who believe in the "cheating" phenomenon, are nothing but insecure fucks who base love on sex."
Wow. Again, the problem with "cheating" is that there was an agreement that was broken.

On "Cheating", it is not "insecurity" that makes your cell phone company fine you hundreds of dollars when you break the contract. If you had pay as you go you would have no problem switching from carrier to carrier. So, don't sign the contract if you can't deal with it. But, if you DO sign it, be prepared. Your point here is that it is "unnatural" to make human beings "sign a contract" to sleep with the same person for the rest of their lives. I say, natural is what you make of it. We are NOT wild animals. We are more complex than that and as such their rules cannot apply.

Sorry for the essay again everyone! Lol

EDJ said...

@ "Besides, if sex wasn't everything when it came to marriage, then why is that the topic reason marriages fail is sex-related?"
Where did you get this from? "Sex-related" issues are not the number one cause for divorce.

@ "And also why is it that you have a problem with my polygamous ideology"
I don't have a problem with your ideology. The problem I have is your attempt to justify it. If you had simply said, "I like having sex with varying people and I don't want to be tied down" then I would simply roll my eyes and that would be it. Your attempt to justify your view based on half-assed logic is the problem.

@ "And to prove me wrong, why don't you prove a social creature, in a social environment (not isolated), that sticks solely to monogamy (without including humans please)."
Please see, Gray wolves.

@ "So you don't see that chimp behavior in men too? Haha, honestly, observe first, think second, and speak last. A word is enough."
I have observed men that do not go around killing another man just because he is walking down the street with a woman they want. I am not saying there are no similarities, but the differences are greater--scientifically and socially.

Beautiful said...

EDJ haf kee Messiah o, lwkmd!!!

EDJ said...

Lol @ Beautiful.

I am simply responding to his claims. I dislike when people try to justify stuff based on pseudo-science.

He should just admit to being a man-whore and let us all move on. It is quite simple. I know many man-whores and we get along just fine as long as they don't try to sell me their justification. He doesn't like marriage, great. To say that it is unnatural for the rest of us to want it based on his misanthrope views, well that is the problem.

Its not even as if I am a great supporter of marriage either. BUT, Messiah's logic just has serious holes.

The Messiah said...

@EDJ, you claim Mark Twain's essay is irrelevant simply because it's ancient and lacks scientific observation right? I'm guessing you aren't following a religious deity such as Christianity, Islam, Judaism, Confusiucism etc. Because if you are, then you just contradicted yourself, because the holy books of reference from such religions lack scientific observation and are ancient. Gbam. Second of all, Mark Twain's book is filled with scientific evidence, experiments, and observation. He gave a contrast of hunters and anacondas in an experimental order. What the fuck were you reading. Anyways, lemme refresh your mind by sending you a link to the essay:

http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:_oQ7Z-s2EwYJ:videorat.videohh.com/DOCS/The%2520Lowest%2520Animal.doc+lowest+animal+by+mark+twain&cd=1&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us&client=firefox-a

Remember my suggestion, observer first, think second and speak last.

The Messiah said...

"There are women who will ignore good looks, lack of money, poor physical stature, all in the name of "love". If we were not HIGHER animals then "Good looks, humor, and sluts" notwithstanding ANY man who is not stunningly handsome, ridiculously wealthy, amazingly strong, etc would not get laid. If you are not that male then you are SOL. You may say that is how it works now. But, I beg to differ."

---Wow haha. I remember one day I was at a park playing American Football with my friend, he had his bitch (female dog) with him. And then, someone walking their dog comes along our path, with his dog (male) encounters the female dog, has a brief dog-introduction, and then the female dog lies and her back (this is a sign that she is giving up the booty). The dog wasn't ridiculously accomplished, strong or even good looking, yet he got laid. Does that also make does higher animals?


"Good point, and this is why I do not begrudge anyone their decision to marry or not. It is an agreement between two parties not slavery. Agreements can be broken and that is when you get divorce."

--Divorce being the most humane thing about marriage is frown on by many cultures and religion. Some believe it is not an option and in some countries, it is banned. Some people who are caught up in marriage and don't have the opportunity for divorce due to societal pressure or rules of the land, end up being slaves of themselves, regardless of an agreement they made. People make bad choices sometimes.

The Messiah said...

"No it isn't. If it were just sex the divorce rate would be much higher than 50%."

--Haha I like how you only focused on half my point and refused to answer the question after it: it's the reason you marry a gender you are attracted to (can you marry a woman if you are a heterosexual?

--If sex isn't everything about marriage, then why is it that perhaps, the only thing a man/woman can't do to other parties when married is have sex, or anything sex-related (flirt etc)?

"Where did you get this information from? People file for divorce for many reasons. Cheating or "sex-related" issues are not the number one reason."

--Please show me where in any of my statements that I said sex is the "number one reason divorces occur."
I do however, remember saying it is a top reason, (not the top reason). Please read carefully, after all, you're the one who so much in favor of the contract ideology

The Messiah said...

"I don't have a problem with your ideology. The problem I have is your attempt to justify it. If you had simply said, "I like having sex with varying people and I don't want to be tied down" then I would simply roll my eyes and that would be it. Your attempt to justify your view based on half-assed logic is the problem."

--You just prove to either ignore facts or have trouble observing them. Don't you think most men and women too feel the same way (having sex and not wanting to be tied down). It's woven into our nature. Sigmund Freud, the godfather of psychology once noted that the unconscious mind is dominated by violence and sex. Although many of his theories have been proven wrong, this isn't one of them. This is where I receive my logic from. Now marriage is a failed ideology (50% of the time it doesn't work), and my claim is that one of the reasons it's so, is because of our sexual nature. Another aspect of our nature, is freedom. Freedom makes us happy, and so does sex, you take away both and the chances of the person wanting to be with you declines.

The Messiah said...

"Please see, Gray wolves."

--Ah yes, Gray wolves ehn? These are animals that move in remotely small packs (you'd be luck to see more than half a dozen of them in a pack), and these small packs are dominated by the male species. Obviously, polygamy is not an option in such cases (unless the wolves were bisexual). And they do practice polygamy when in bigger packs that contain more females. Like I said, you need to watch and read more about animals. Remember, observe first, think second, speak last.

"I have observed men that do not go around killing another man just because he is walking down the street with a woman they want. I am not saying there are no similarities, but the differences are greater--scientifically and socially.

--And I'm sure there are also men who do the opposite of what you observed. In fact, I observe that women are more likely to do that than men. The only difference is the specie type.

__Now lemme conclude by saying you not only nit-pick my arguments, but by doing so you refuse to consider my point. The love you talk about is based on possession, self-centered and inconsiderate towards the sexual nature of the partner. I once asked you (funny enough, you didn't have the guts to answer the question); Wouldn't you be a lot happier to know that your man has the right to fuck any bitch in the world, but yet he only wants you, rather than forcing him to only want you and the reverse happens? That's what love does. Love gives unconditional without selfish wants and forceful contracts. Love is about trust, contracts aren't. And if you base your marriage on unnatural contracts, then don't get mad if the chances of it succeeding is the same as flipping a coin and getting heads. Keep in mind that when your man cheats on you, the woman he fucks is only a sexual urge for him, you are more than that, you are his life partner. If that still doesn't move you, then your whole marriage is based on sex not love. I've always believed in grown ass people (not kids) having the right to do good things because they want to, not because they have to. It just makes the deed so much more sincere.

Anyaposh said...

hahaha...the last paragraph was the cherry on top this your forbidden sundae.

I especially liked the analogy of the 'hungry? being fed by househelp' and 'horny? being fucked by househelp'! TOO CRAZY!!!

In my view, hunger and sex & 2 completely different needs with different implications, complications, and consequences. Those 2 cannot be used interchangeably!