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Monday, August 16, 2010

FRIENDS ON FACEBOOK, STRANGERS IN REAL LIFE





Ehem lol, this blog post might be self explanatory to some or it might need further explanation. Ok if you are somebody who uses facebook on the regular, you must have certain friends on there who you've never seen in real life. They might live in your state, city, country etc.

So a huge event is coming up right, or a huge party and one or two or three or even four of your friends you normally talk to on your facebook plan to be at that same event and you personally will be showing face. The day of the event comes and it goes well, you notice some of those friends on facebook and if you were like me in the old days you go front tire before going to approach them.

Am sure I am not the only person this has happened to, the people on your facebook are literally just there but you don't want to approach them first for one reason or the other. Sometimes it's because your feeling yourself tomuch, sometimes it might be because you perceive that the other person might have tomuch ego and you feel they should take the humble step of being the first to introduce themselves. Well I and my female friend were just talking about it and we realised it really does not matter. Life is not that serious, if you are cool ass friends with the person on facebook or if you just chat from time to time, why then is it hard for you to go meet them.

Then later when all of you get home, two of you or all of you will tweet each other or facebook chat each other saying "Oh I saw you @ this and this" then the other person will be like " how come you did not come say hi" and in your mind your like "how come your yeye self no come say hi to? Abi na only for my village them dey say hi" hissssss.

Anywayz sha, I know most of you get the gist of what am trying to say sha, why do some of us tend to do that though? What's the big deal? Why would you be friends on facebook but strangers in real life??


Azazel

11 comments:

Vanity said...

The big deal is that a lot of people over hype themselves on facebook. Imagine when you meet the person and they are totally different from the person on facebook.

Azazel said...

Lol but does it matter if they are different from their facebook?
They are still a person abi?

Plus I don't think ur getting my point, if somebody comes off as a celebrity on facebook, and u meet them in real life and they aren't really a celebrity..
Why should it matter???

El-Divine said...

lol..its just the fact that no matter how much u know a person on fb, u neva really know them. when u meet in real life u still need to make the connection.
either way, i dont realy say i kno y it happens. it just does

Tosin said...

lol, Eche if I ever see you in person, you better say Hi.

in reference to the post, meeting people on facebook and meeting them in person is different because in person, you actually hear the person speak, you feel their presence and how some they may be different than you may have imagine in your mind which can made the situation a bit awkward.

leggy said...

i dont add people i dont know on fb.end of story.

Azazel said...

lol and leggy why is that??
U are not interested in meeting new people?

Eke u can know a person in real life and still never really know them..

佳皓佳皓佳皓 said...

鞋匠能作好鞋子,因為他只做鞋,不做別的。..................................................

HYAW said...

i have so many friends i do not know on facebook. and i am one of those people who would wait for you to come and talk to me first (except for the few i am really dying to meet). for the others, i usually prefer fb friends to remain fb friends, but if the other person thinks she/he wants to meet me, then she/he has to come to me first. i agree its no big deal who goes first finally, but there's always the unneccesary shakara. i have met some really good friends through these kind of meetings, and i think i am also trying to stop the nonsense shakara

Realist said...

Certain people love facebook because it is an escape from their world. They do not want this escape to become part and parcel of their world. A lot of people dont like change

ZeL said...

Facebook friends and Real friends are two different things

ur real friends can become facebook friends. Technology invades that space ( actual meeting up, sharing a drink, a kind word on the phone) and thats what u get.

Mz.T said...

Is this restricted to facebook or just social networking sites in general... Cause I don't use fb anymore...

But from twitter, I can tell you some people are scared of the rejection.. There are some people that you just know once you meet them for the first time in real life it's like the person is a long lost friend so there's this automatic connection... but if you don't have this link with someone from the cyber world there's this reluctance of going up to them in real life because that safety net of knowing how they would react is not there.. Would they look at you like trash? Would they hug you a little too tight and get too friendly? Would they walk away? You just don't KNOW... So no matter how curious you are to meet them, you don't want to embarrass yourself.