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Tuesday, March 9, 2010

WHY YOU DEY VEX??? IS IT YOUR MONEY????


This blog was started in September of last year and now we almost have a 100 followers. One more person to go and we get it to 100, moreover there are about 5 most posts to go and we make it to our 100th post. I would be lying if I said that I have not lost my blogging mojo, am just not feeling it anymore. I don't blog from my heart anymore, maybe it's because my blog personality has been seriously compromised... But let me not bore you all with such nonsense.

Yesterday, my professor joked about how we could solve the unemployment issue in the U.S by having all the women go back to being housewives, and letting the men take the jobs that these women had taken from them. I laughed so hard I almost bust a rib, that dude had a serious point. What do you all think??

Nothing irritates me more than when I go to a forum concerning black/African issues and some black feminists stand up and start to complain about 'black successful men' who marry white women. I've always wanted to tell them 'Why you dey vex?? Is it your money??' ahn ahn if it's not your money why are you then complaining. Please to those women out there in blogsville who have been unfortunate to be part of these 'complainers', black successful men are not obligated to marry black women and in return black successful women are not obligated to marry black men.

I was saying that women who know about a 'current' male friend of theirs who's cheating on his girlfriend/wife but have not told the gf/wife  should never ever open their mouths and follow their fellow women in criticising men. I know a lot of females who know very well that a male friend of theirs is cheating but they never do anything to either berate him or inform the girlfriend. I feel that if you know that a male friend of yours is cheating on his partner but you never say anything, you become an accomplice to that 'cheating'.. It's almost like witnessing a rape without calling 911 and when the rapist is now caught you follow others in condemning him/her. Totally ridiculous.

Fb status -The wives of men who cheat, have agendas. They stay for a myriad of reasons. Do not assume stupidity is one of them. Now I do not know about the girlfriends of men who cheat, because me no see any reason why they choose to stay? Afterall if you are not married you are 'single'. So yes I feel that it is right to assume that such females are 'stupid'.


Fb status -Two things in my opinion dat are unacceptable in a relationship.Bf nd gf quarelling and the gf's mother calls bf 2 ask why her daughter is crying = ULTIMATE FUCKEREY. Bf and gf quarrelling and bf's mother calls gf 2 ask why her son is crying= EPIC FUCKEREY. Totally unacceptable.Handle ur private/personal bizness without family interference.

34 comments:

honey91 said...

Congrats on having 100 less one followers :D
gotta agree wiv u bout black successful men being obligated to marry black women...dats just complete BS!
if a guy's gf stays wiv him after he cheat its stupidity?! ive got mixed feelings about that...
if she was getting something worth her while, then her staying wiv him isnt stupidity at all...in fact, its a direct opposite!

LucidLilith said...

As per women going back to housewivery...what of those that are not married? Should we stand in the soup line until we get married?

As per successful black men...to each his own.

As per bf and gf, everyone should mind their own business.

The Messiah said...

Haha forealz....Any black woman who says something like "black successful men should marry from their race," is a gold-digger. Period

leggy said...

lol..i completely agree but for the housewife ish...what of the single ones?

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Anonymous said...

biko who is this anony person? hiss.

anyway. azazeeel! where have I been since. smh.
lol @ fb status 2. that's just gay. why does my mother have my boyfy's number in the first place? odikwa very nonsense.
and I was thinking about the whole black and white thing too. not to the successful black person level but I was just wondering why most nigerian boys [i know] prefer white girls and then the nigerian girls don't like white boys.
my friend thinks nigerian girls are "stupid" because he goes to a boarding school here in the UK right and there are like 8 nigerians in total [he and his sister included] he says the nigerian girls don't mix and he finds it irritating so he loves white girls.
it's off the point but yeah. he finds his sister irritating too :/
i like anyone.

Anonymous said...

Hmm that's quiet interessting but honestly i have a hard time visualizing it... I'm wondering what others have to say....

. said...

lmao @ the second fb status, i think i'm your 100th follower, 99 is a weird looking number. not down with the unemployment and housewifery, maybe more private businesses or something to that respect might help. I'm not a total feminist, but hell-to-dah-no on staying at home cooking, cleaning and making babies for one man. Besides i'm not comfortable with total dependence on another human being. On black successful men, no comment i'm still looking.

Anonymous said...

I'm with you on most of this stuff except the cheating bit.

I don't think the bible ever said thou shall not cheat nor does it say thou shall not refrain from reporting a cheating boyfriend.

Couples keep secrets all the time and People cheat for a whole host of reasons. It is up to the cheater to be discreet about it. If caught, he/she is at the mercy of the catcher, but the catcher is not obligated to report. Odds are the only person the act of reporting would be doing a favor is the catcher and her conscience.

El-Divine said...

hahahhaa...azazel man. you stir up controversy like iya basira stirs her soup!
we all think the things you do but the way you present it is just razz.... my openin lafta by the way is a spill over of how funny i found the idea that someoene would suggest that women go back to being housewives. lol lol...the number of men dyin from heart disease might shoot up cos no one man cn sustain a family in these times.
one more thing...abeg find ur mojo real kwik. we're with you...go eche go!

TayneMent said...

COngrats on all the 100 celebrations.

Rene said...

i'm ur 100th follower....lol do i get a gift?hehe
y wud i want 2 tell y friend their boo is cheating #isitmybusiness

AliceDCL said...

who are all this weird anonymous people using or blogs for crazy adverts.
ahn ahn
i get them too so annoying
one even advertizes guns on my blogs...
hissss.....

ehen u this boy u don start again

i personally know of a friend of mine whose boyfriend is cheating on her, we are really close and i think she suspects but i cant tell her,
he has been unfaithful since we were in school but thye are still dating, everytime i wish shed catch him but i know people, if i tell her now, she now forgives him i become the evil person.....
cos i am close to the boy too....

so am leavn it till God knows..
but if they get to marriage stage i might tell her, emphasis on might

dnt know if ma wrong but av been bitten in d ass from opening my mouth before
moreover i know if its me noone will say jack!!!!

Fragilelooks said...

@REPORTING A CHEATING MATE.................. NAAAAA NOT FOR ME NYMORE. JUST LIKE *BBB*,TRIED IT AND I BECAME THE ENEMY... SO ALL MAN FOR HIMSELF. FIND OUT NYWHICH WAY,BT I AIN'T TELLING SHIT.
@2ND FB STATUS: LOL. STUPIDITY OF THE HIGHEST ORDER.
@SUCCESFUL BLACK MALE/FEMALE HOOKING UP WITH WHITE COUNTERPARTS.... I'LL SAY ITS JUST OK IF BOTH PARIS ARE HAPPY. AND WHERE IS IT ENDORSED THAT SUCESSFUL BLACK MAN/WOMAN FOR FELLOW BLACKS?????????????

AND O YES, THESE ANONYMOUS PPLE SHLD PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

Unknown said...

Congrats oh!.. Envy you, but small sha.. I understand the mojo thing about writting.. sometimes, you just lose it.
But you're not serious oh.. why should I tell a gf of my friend even a wife that they're being cheating on?
God forbid!Later on they'd use you to make and you'd now be termed the home or relationship breaker!Only and best thing I can do is drop hints which seem innocent ,simple!
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Unknown said...

Concerning your point about women staying home while men work...your professor is an idiot.

Not because he says women should stay home but because clearly he doesn't understand Math.

It is not 1950-something when a family could survive on one paycheck a month. Are you serious? You think I LIKE the idea of working 9 to God knows when to provide for myself? You don't think I'd LOVE it if my husband could go to work while I spend all day taking care of myself, making myself look good, and occasionally working on some charity to feed the world? You don't think I would LOVE if a man could TRULY take care of me properly on his paycheck while leaving me to pursue whatever the hell I want?

Like I said your professor is an idiot. Its 2010, one paycheck can't even feed one person, how the hell is it going to take care of a family? Or is your professor under the impression that all those jobs held by women are over 6-figure salaries? Just useless.

I don't have any problem with black men dating/marrying whoever they want. I don't understand the black women who get upset. When white people marry out of their race I don't think you hear white people say, "damn...why didn't he marry a white chick and keep all his money within our race."

Racial equality is about being able to do what they want with whomever they want. I understand that its hard for black women to date outside their race. We don't have positive stereotypes likeOur stereotype is that we are loud, obnoxious, finger-snapping "divas" while black men are "strong" and can "hold it down" in bed. We need to focus on making ourselves look better instead of bashing black men. Black women need a good PR agent. (I'm writing a blog post about this now)

Nutty J. said...

Hey I made it 101 for you...

Nice posts...true talk.

In my mind sha ooo, if he/she is ur friend, pls tell them their other half is cheating. Its what I would want a friend to tell me, if my supposed future patner is cheating. No matter how they take it, dont worry about that...u have played ur part as a 'friend'

I go vex well well if my friends keep something like that from me sha.

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Azazel said...

THanks guys for putting me to a 100..
Lily he was joking o.
Yeah Honey if she was getting money from him, she berra stay..
Messiah I totally agree lol...
Ahn Ahn Moyo ur moms can get ur bf's number if he comes to visit ur family lol.
Most nigerian men don't like white girls, where is the research for that??
Anonymous what are u exactly wondering about??

Azazel said...

Nutty u are a good sombori.
Thanks El-divine

BBB do the right thing and let ur friend know wassap. Wat wud u want to happen if it happened to u??
Lol @ Fragile..
Just because u've been burned once for doing the right thing does not mean u should stop...

EDJ my prof was kidding around, ahn ahn peeps can't take joke again in this world? lol

Anonymous said...

Eh ehn. Men don't give her mother your number except you're married for at least 5 years :p I'm joking.

And there's no research. I said most nigerian boys I know that live here like [well they said they do] white girls more than they like Nigerians.

Azazel said...

Maybe there like more white girls because there are more white girls there than nigerian girls??

Anonymous said...

Dunno oh. My cousin.
His excuse is that Nigerians don't like to mix which he finds quite racist so yeah.

Anonymous said...

White & blue eyed is the new black. Nigerian girls can go eat a puppy or date Congolese or wareva is available. They're simply not worth the trouble.

Myne said...

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Azazel said...

Not wanting to mix is not 'racist' lol it's prejudicial

Unknown said...

Told y'all I was writing a blog post about this: do Black Women Have A Choice? Truly?

lani said...

True man. A man can date whoever he likes. We are not constrained within our colours

Random One said...

"When white people marry out of their race I don't think you hear white people say, "damn...why didn't he marry a white chick and keep all his money within our race."

@EDJ...fact that you don't "hear" them doesn't mean they don't say it. No, i'm not one of those that care one way or the other.

About 'reporting' cheating spouses...its weird. I would totally want my friend to tell me if they knew and i would want to tell but like some people have mentioned will i now become the enemy? Will it be more embarrassing for her cos she knew about it already and now I know?...it gets dicey mehn.

Anonymous said...

lol at women leaving the labor workforce I hope he was just joking. I agree on the black men/white women thing. It's like why don't you do the same then no one is stopping you.

Azazel said...

Lol repressed one, doing the right thing has never been easy..
@ Lani
U are right bro
And Suru u are on point as always, my prof was joking.

Realist said...

lol... i still do not agree with you on the whole girlfriend telling partner thing. If the girl is close friends with the dude, she has no obligations to tell. Rape is the wrong analogy. Rape is a crime, cheating isnt.

Aradi said...

Regarding bf/gf: man, I've never been a fan of exclusivity in dating and stuff. I mean, you're virtually kids, you haven't even decided on what you like, and you're denying yourself the chance to potentially hook up with someone cool because of some commitment you made to some other person.

On the other hand, if there's really romance between you, little can change that. I have been out with a friend seriously committed to this girl with some other girls. At the end of the night, he only had complaints and bad things to say about either of them, and they were fine. I just laughed and didn't point out to him what's obliterating his vision.