I sincerely believe that every person at least once in their lifetime should have their heart broken, preferably before they turn 21. And I believe it is one's duty as a friend to ensure that that happens before they turn 21 and i shall tell you why lol. So basically most of us have that naive friend whether girl or guy who we feel do not know squat about relationships or about men or women. And sometimes the things that come out from the mouths of these people leave us seriously stupefied. (naive babes are mostly from (17 - 20)
Anywayz make I yarn una the story which I 'overheard from the grapevine'. This one 'naive' girl apparently asks a friend of a dude she was interested in 'What kind of guy' the dude was. Well this friend then says that he does not dish on friends and asks her to go talk to the dude in question, the girl then says she's talked to the dude but she wants to know what 'kind' of guy he is? Whether he is a good or bad guy?
Well now this is where I pause, what does this babe mean by 'good or bad'?? A guy might not be good in a relationship sense but he might be awesome in every other thing and the same goes for vice versa so how does one decide whether a guy is a good guy? or a bad guy?
So this naive girl apparently likes this 'guy' who by the way is a player and ish, so should the male friend advice her to go for the guy or not go??
Personally I think he should tell her to give the guy a chance, because if she doesn't get played now she will get played later, and I believe that it is better to be played as a girl when you are young than when you are above 21 because it shatters you more when you are older in my opinion. As I said earlier, I believe every person should have their heart broken at least once, in this society people are taught to flee from 'pain' and there are a lot of drugs out there which help us escape from the pain. I think am beginning to ramble but I feel that this quote right here correctly exemplifies what I am trying to convey : People talk about how great love is, but that's bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they're afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they're wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It's all in how you carry it. "
Where it says 'you feel your strength in the experience of pain' is what speaks to me most.
So basically I would advice the male friend of the girl to let her go through with the guy, do not advice her that the dude is going to be bad for her, afterall the girl has to learn sometime abi? It is better in my opinion for her to learn sooner rather than later.
What do you guys think? Please blogsville no vex if my blogpost is all over the place, I was seriously pre-occupied while writing this. But I want to know your thoughts on the issue.