Thursday, June 23, 2011
A QUESTION ABOUT LOVE
So two individuals, man and woman meet, hook up, exchange numbers and all that. They start talking on the phone, every night, every day, texting and getting to know each other. Now mind you, these two individuals have pretty much experienced everything they can when it comes to "male-female" relationships, they know the tricks, they've heard the broken promises, they've been heart broken, cheated on, blah blah blah.
Now these two individuals are obviously wary people when it comes to love, so the topic of love is never discussed or brought up in their conversations. These two people gradually begin to really enjoy each other's companies, their "relationship" stretches into three months and all the while their "interest" in each other grows and grows. At what point then is it acceptable for the guy to drop the "love" bomb? Those three little words that'll change their relationship forever. At what point can he drop it without fear that the girl might take it the wrong way or not accept it? I'm speaking from the guys perspective because I am a guy, the woman will obviously have her own perspective but since she is not here to state hers, we shall ignore her perspective LOL.
My question again is this, when in a relationship between a guy and girl can the guy finally drop the words "I LOVE YOU" or "I AM IN LOVE WITH YOU". Is there a time limit? Should he wait 3 months before dropping those words? Even though he probably felt love for her after the first week? Should he wait a year? 6 months? Because the thing with babes who've been fucked up emotionally by other guys is that their cynicism/skepticism is off the charts, so when they finally come to you they are really skeptical about the words "I love you" unless of cause they are one of those babes who can't wait to hear those words then that one is a different marra.
I really need help or advice answering this question, and NO I am not in love, just inquiring just incase I ever get to this point.. (Lies bloggers typeeee) lmao.
So I've been thinking, maybe there are different types of love. Maybe there is the love that empowers you and the love that weakens the fuck out of you emotionally/mentally. I mean how else do you explain how a babe who's been played and out played by her boyfriend keeps going back to him even though she knows of his transgressions? And she can't for the life of her come up with an answer as to why she keeps on going back.
Most of us have friends like that, who exhibit that type of emotional weakness when it comes to somebody they really "feel". What advice do you give to such friends? Because it seems like no matter what you say, they keep FALLING, FALLING, FALLING as Alicia Keys says.