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So I was looking for something to blog about today and I got to thinking about a conversation I and a buddy of mine yesterday had about people who speak the truth without caring what you think. And how such people are refreshing, even though what they say sometimes might be borderline scandalous.
There is this guy called Lexx Ore on facebook, and before I go on. This post is not meant to insult, demean or complain about Lexx. I am just using him as an example of the title of this post.
Lexx is famous for status updates like this:
1) "Why d freak is this random guy in my hotel suite in a towel brushing his teeth on some "I just used ur toilet so stay away from d bathroom for a lil bit" but thx for letting me use ur toilet"....wtf is this??? How did this pig hole get in my room??? Negro, wrong room and I don't know you..and d smell!!!!...OMGGGG #never-leave-ur-room-door-open"
2) :Nigerian Girls with 'bad' hair is all I see at d picnic..this one chick's perm was so bad it looked like a cleaning mop and smelt like it too....no more hugging random chicks...food came 5hrs after scheduled time and why are they serving burgers at a Nigerian reunion?? Smh #noSuya..wtf
3) *ladies* walking around the hotel lobby with ur torn bra, ashy elbows, early morning donkey sex breath, and dirty boxers on some "I'm just being casual" is not a good look....try again morasucka...u r just Nasty and slavery is still in ur blood...(2010 nyc Nigerian reunion
Now this is just a taste of the status updates Lexx puts up on his page. Now sometimes the status updates are funny to me, sometimes they stun me with the level of their 'meanness'. But then I got to thinking especially after I had had a talk with the friend of mine about people like Lexx who say stuff that most people in their right minds would not dare do. One could say that Lexx does it for attention, but I believe sincerely that the dude frankly does not give a sh*t. The question then is seeing as I believe that Lexx usually speaks the truth in his statuses, how then does one reconcile the fact that some of the things he says are downright hurtful and meanspirited?
Now back to the title of this blogpost which says 'IF THE TRUTH HURTS PEOPLE'S FEELINGS, SHOULD YOU STILL SAY IT"??
I personally believe that one should still say it even if the truth damaged people's self respect/dignity. "The truth shall set you free but first it will make you miserable" is a favorable quote of mine.
People like Lexx who speak truth that might indeed be hurtful/mean-spirited are still speaking the truth.
In conclusion, my opinion on the matter is this, if the truth be hurtful SAY IT. If the truth be blasphemous, SAY IT. If the truth be scandalous, SAY IT. And keep on saying it until somebody decides they've had enough and decides to send you to your maker. And then we will all come and chop enough rice at your funeral and jolly.
OK funny thing happened the other day and I am going to share it. A friend of mine had two aunties of hers who died in a car accident while on their way to a funeral. On the way to the funeral, they got into an auto accident and the two of them died.
When my friend told me about it, first thing that came to my mind was "Wow so they were on their way to eat rice at somebody else's funeral, and they died. Now somebody else will eat rice at their own funeral". - The Irony of Life/Death. I and my friend sha shared a good laugh lol, cracked me up big time. Some of you will say we have no respect for the dead, me personally i believe that the Dead deserve the truth, while the living deserve my respect. So I am not particularly big on respecting dead people.