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Monday, July 5, 2010

IF THE TRUTH HURTS PEOPLE'S FEELINGS, SHOULD YOU STILL SAY IT??



Before I begin, yours truly was nominated for Best Moniker and Most Controversial Blogger at the Nigerian Blog Awards. Voting is open now and you can cast your vote here at the Nigerian Blog Awards.

So I was looking for something to blog about today and I got to thinking about a conversation I and a buddy of mine yesterday had about people who speak the truth without caring what you think. And how such people are refreshing, even though what they say sometimes might be borderline scandalous. 
There is this guy called Lexx Ore on facebook, and before I go on. This post is not meant to insult, demean or complain about Lexx. I am just using him as an example of the title of this post.
Lexx is famous for status updates like this:
1) "Why d freak is this random guy in my hotel suite in a towel brushing his teeth on some "I just used ur toilet so stay away from d bathroom for a lil bit" but thx for letting me use ur toilet"....wtf is this??? How did this pig hole get in my room??? Negro, wrong room and I don't know you..and d smell!!!!...OMGGGG #never-leave-ur-room-door-open"
2)  :Nigerian Girls with 'bad' hair is all I see at d picnic..this one chick's perm was so bad it looked like a cleaning mop and smelt like it too....no more hugging random chicks...food came 5hrs after scheduled time and why are they serving burgers at a Nigerian reunion?? Smh #noSuya..wtf 
3)  *ladies* walking around the hotel lobby with ur torn bra, ashy elbows, early morning donkey sex breath, and dirty boxers on some "I'm just being casual" is not a good look....try again morasucka...u r just Nasty and slavery is still in ur blood...(2010 nyc Nigerian reunion

Now this is just a taste of the status updates Lexx puts up on his page. Now sometimes the status updates are funny to me, sometimes they stun me with the level of their 'meanness'. But then I got to thinking especially after I had had a talk with the friend of mine about people like Lexx who say stuff that most people in their right minds would not dare do. One could say that Lexx does it for attention, but I believe sincerely that the dude frankly does not give a sh*t. The question then is seeing as I believe that Lexx usually speaks the truth in his statuses, how then does one reconcile the fact that some of the things he says are downright hurtful and meanspirited?

Now back to the title of this blogpost which says 'IF THE TRUTH HURTS PEOPLE'S FEELINGS, SHOULD YOU STILL SAY IT"?? 
I personally believe that one should still say it even if the truth damaged people's self respect/dignity. "The truth shall set you free but first it will make you miserable" is a favorable quote of mine. 
People like Lexx who speak truth that might indeed be hurtful/mean-spirited are still speaking the truth. 

In conclusion, my opinion on the matter is this, if the truth be hurtful SAY IT. If the truth be blasphemous, SAY IT. If the truth be scandalous, SAY IT. And keep on saying it until somebody decides they've had enough and decides to send you to your maker. And then we will all come and chop enough rice at your funeral and jolly. 

OK funny thing happened the other day and I am going to share it. A friend of mine had two aunties of hers who died in a car accident while on their way to a funeral. On the way to the funeral, they got into an auto accident and the two of them died.
When my friend told me about it, first thing that came to my mind was "Wow so they were on their way to eat rice at somebody else's funeral, and they died. Now somebody else will eat rice at their own funeral". - The Irony of Life/Death. I and my friend sha shared a good laugh lol, cracked me up big time. Some of you will say we have no respect for the dead, me personally i believe that the Dead deserve the truth, while the living deserve my respect. So I am not particularly big on respecting dead people. 

#Azazelistalking


26 comments:

Lulu said...

I say Lexx is gay. Lexx is gay #NowChanting Lexx is gay! Lexx is gay! lol

Azazel said...

Lol Lulu..
How can u tell a person's sexual orientation from their status updates??
na wa o

Azazel said...

Lol na u talk am lulu o..
I did not say he was gay i did not say he wasn't..
Idk how u are able to tell somebody's sexual orientation from their status update

The nitty-gritty tales of a housewife said...

*sigh*....if the truth involve life & death or would break up a marriage would you tell it?...just like a woman caught in the act of infidelity by a family friend, would he tell his best friend?..OR in the case of Abraham saying sarah was his sister[partially true being his cousin] & not wife lest he be killed. To me, DIPLOMACY is the key.

TayneMent said...

I usually don't find Lexx's comments mean or hurtful because he usually generalizes and never specifically calls anyone's name out. For him to be mean he would have to be specific and name names. I've had a discussion about this recently and I think it depends. If its a random person and they did not ask your opinion what does marching up and saying your own "truth" do? Our generation seems to think being disrespectful and saying our own is"keeping it real", I believe you can say the truth without being disrespctful.

leggy said...

im all for saying the truth and everything but sometimes people dont say the truth cos they want to say the truth, sometimes they are just plain mean.what does he mean by slavery is still in your blood?thats just mean.thats not refreshing.
you have to admit azazel, some people are just really mean and i cant stand people who insult people and then hide under the guise of 'just keeping it real' or 'telling the truth'.
there is a difference between telling the truth and being just plain mean.
just my opinion sha.

Azazel said...

Lol if it involves life and death @ nitty grittyy..
Still speak it, u assume that life is more important than the truth.. Why is that?
Saying somebody is ur sister when she is ur wife, is an outright lie..
Not a partial truth abeg..

@ i cant stand people who insult people and then hide under the guise of 'just keeping it real' or 'telling the truth'

Leggy this makes sense to me..

Nutty J. said...

Lexx is just an angry child. A mean child who was starved of attention as a child.

That is not speaking the truth...since when is exaggeration seen as being truthful. Or do you honestly believe that the girls hair smells like mop?

And if he is speaking the truth, why isnt he telling the people...why is he talking on FB? updating his status with the 'truth' he couldnt tell people... BULLSHIT.

My opinion...speak the truth no matter what, but have a skill of delivery to suit all temperaments. You want the truth to make the right impact...not make you seem like a superior jerk/jerkette. Or in my opinion, the asshole that they probably are


Nutty J

Original Mgbeke said...

You can say the truth and 'keep it real', but do it with tact. If you are wearing a dress, and your BFF comes and says 'Abeg take the dress off, it makes you look fat and showcases all your love handles'...I think that would be kinda like errr...as opposed to 'That dress doesn't really compliment your figure, how about X dress?'

Ya dig?

2cute4u said...

Sometimes, the truth is nice, great even, just when it's not directed at you and hurtful too.
I ask you;
How about if someone decides to tell you hateful, hurtful truths about you; everyday? Would you like it?

LE DYNAMIQUE PROFESSEUR said...

I completely agree with you that even if the truth hurts, we should say it. However, all things (including this) must be done with wisdom and in love. We should not communicate the truth in such a way that the hearer will go and commit suicide or hate him/herself for life.

Thats my take sha.

- LDP

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Azazel said...

With wisdom and in love..
I like that in LDP

The Messiah said...

Injections hurt babies, so therefore they shouldn't get vaccinated? Please always let your actions be driven by logic not on emotions.

Realist said...

I got a friend who likes "telling the truth" and "keeping it real". Dude has no tact what so ever. He once made this "touched" dude almost cry, i had to come in and raise up dude's self esteem. The funny thing is that of all my friends, he is the one i am less likely to be "real" with or to joke with... why? because i know he cant take it. People who "keep it real" with others, often can not take it when you keep it real with them. I am planning on totally keeping it real with him, when he next tries to tell me the "truth" that i already know

lahlah said...

@ messiah, true, but then though the injections hurt they end up being beneficial to the babies. I don't see how calling someone out on facebook where they may or may not be able to defend themselves is beneficial.
There's a thin line between telling the truth and just being rude.

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Aaron The baron said...

What most of u are saying is for Lexx to have tact when dishing out a scolding. To take things from another perspective, Lexx is highing entertaining because there is nothing more gripping than knowing the innermost thoughts of the next person. He does not use names so we can not label him as mean. Regarding truth, is there such a thing? Pilate asked Christ the very same thing. I think it all depends on your vantage point. All in all it is always mean to deliberately knock someone's confidence (which Lexx didnt do) and there are tactful ways of voicing an opinion without being hurtful. As an aside Lexx should be in showbiz :)

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Azazel said...

LOl @ Aaron..
I feel it lol

LucidLilith said...

We all say we value honesty. that's bullcrap. No one really wants to hear the truth especially ones that pack a mean punch.

The other day a girl told me she had an hour glass figure. She did not. She was fat and I told her so. We aint friends no mo.

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doll said...

the truth is good, and should be said at all time, but i believe there should be creativity in the delivery of the truth

Vanity said...

why am i not friends with this person? too funny but kinda mean

http://somepeoplehaverealproblems-vain.blogspot.com